My Advice to Catholic Parents: Don’t Let Your Kids Date Non-Catholics

I know, this is hardly revolutionary or unique advice, but I was recently asked about this issue by a young Catholic man who called my radio show. He had been dating a devoutly Presbyterian girl, and her father didn’t like it one bit that the guy was Catholic.
I think my response to his “what do I do now?” question may have surprise him. (It apparently surprised and even dismayed a few of my listeners, judging from some of the e-mails that came in after that show.)
My basic premise, which I advert to in this audio segment is that, more often than not, mixed marriages (i.e., when a Catholic marries a non-Catholic) are a recipe for serious problems down the road in that marriage. My advice to Catholic parents is, teach your children well the importance of finding a devoutly Catholic spouse. Eventually, if you haven’t taught them this maxim and they, as a result, do not act on it, you will very likely see problems springing up in your extended family due to your sons and daughters being, in a certain sense, unequally yoked with non-Catholics. Word to the wise. Take a listen . . . .


  1. Tony

    My Aunt a catholic active in the Newman society in college, was married to a non catholic a protestant my grandmother was upset about it, but being he was a nice guy she accepted him, well before the of both of them passing away my grandmother passed away he became an atheist, he was cremated and had his ashes spread with no protestant service and guess what my aunt she passed away was not a practicing catholic also was cremated and had her ashes spread.

  2. Emmanuel

    The Catholic Church IS OBVIOUSLY OBSTINATE about raising every fruit of marriage in the Catholic doctrine. This is rather selfish in a mixed marriage if I would say.

    What would be the say of the non-catholic partner (especially a committed one) on the spiritual well-being of the children (especially in line with his faith)? How convenient would it be for the non-catholic partner to support the spouse in raising the children as expected by the church? This can be a very potent source of strive in the family.

    Divergence in religious beliefs can be a serious ‘strife generator’ in the home. Peaceful home is important in having smooth relationship with God. We can always avoid serving God in conflicting home atmosphere: not having the hearts of the couple as one.

    So, I’ll go with the advice, let everyone marry a partner who can resonate with his faith: catholics marry catholics, protestants marry protestants.
    GOD BLESS OUR HOMES. May we not all miss the marriage supper of the Lamp. JESUS REMAINS THE LORD FOREVER!

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